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February 08, 2010



As my mom always said, "This too shall pass." Eventually, J Bear will realize that you are looking out for her best interests.

I won't ever forget the first time Skye moved out. She was moving into a trailer with a friend on said friends family property. She was 19 so there wasn't a lot I could say. I wondered why she didn't invite us there until the last day of moving (She needed our truck to move the bigger items).

Let's just say my jaw dropped and I still couldn't pick it up by the time we got home. In my opinion the place was wasn't habitible. We spent alot of money trying to help her out and get the place at least livable. Six months later she moved out and left everything behind with her friend. I was pissed.

Since then thankfully she has gotten some common sense about where she lives. (Hugs)Indigo

Damn! That fast! Here one minute, gone the next!
I seriously don't think mine are ever moving out... and to be honest, I'm not sure how I feel about it. Kinda back and forth.

The stealth bomber kiddo... and away she goes! Maybe next she's be the boomerang... Here she comes again!

It really seems to me that your attitude about your daughter's sexuality is that it's all okay as long as she keeps it private. Her "increasingly butch appearance" is a problem for your parents and for you - you are asking her to change who she is for the comfort of homophobic society.

Are butch lesbians not "polite society"? Why not? How can you not see that your dislike of her appearance, her expression of self, sends her the message that you do not like her and that you are uncomfortable with her orientation?

You've mentioned before that your sons sometimes act in stereotypically gay manners. Why is that acceptable, but J-Bear is not?

I agree with Rebecca. You say you have no problem with who your daughter is but then you expect her to change when it suits you. I'm not surprised she has been in stealth mode and moved out. You say she's an adult but you want to control her as if she's a child. Accept your child for who she is fully, mohawk and all. Be proud to have her by your side at the family gathering. After all, isn't it her heart and mind that really matter?

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