The health news in our household continues to get worse. Specifically, the news about hubbie's cancer. So, unfortunately, it was time to tell the kids. Luckily, earlier that day I had had an appointment with a social worker who knows both of us and I mentioned that I was telling the kids that night. She very kindly helped me work out a script to ease the news to them.
I also employed a bit of psychology. At dinner that night, I told them that I had 2 things to discuss with them. The second being tasks that they needed to do around the house during school vacation week. "Don't talk about that now, Mom. Tell us the first thing." So I did.
Rosie cried and climbed into my lap. Abe got very quiet.
And then I went back to talking about the upcoming week and what we needed to do and they both perked up a bit and we had a very pleasant dinner together.
Rosie is back to sleeping with me at night for comfort, and that's just fine. But the biggest surprise of all was Abe. One of the tasks for the week was to mow the front lawn. He asked when it should be done. And went out and did it right after dinner!!! And did the whole thing without stopping and having to have me yell at him to finish up!!!
You have a rough road ahead, but it sounds like you're managing each step as well as possible. It sounds like the kids are responding well, too. Hugs to you all.
Posted by: Ilona | April 28, 2009 at 09:47 AM
Hugs to you. I'm glad to know you have support and contact people so you don't have to shoulder all the burdens alone.
Posted by: Daisy | April 28, 2009 at 08:20 PM
You are in my thoughts and prayers! My husband was ill for seven years and went through major personality changes, that at times was worse than the cancer! One agreement I had with my son was that when there was news I would share it. He didn't like surprises or secrets. I so understand going to work as a break from home! Take good care of yourself! If you ever want to talk with someone that's been there, feel free to email me.
Posted by: quilt crazy | April 28, 2009 at 10:47 PM
You know the kids have grasped the seriousness when they get in and do their jobs huh?
Wish I had helpful words for you, but, ah, the cupboard seems to be bare. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by: Ali | April 29, 2009 at 08:05 AM