Holiday stress

 

 

Can I just go spend the next four days on some tropical island?

 

I am just so tired of being in the middle!

 

My ex husband/current boyfriend wants our girls to spend Thanksgiving with him.

 

My parents and sisters want the girls to spend the day with them.  Drew is NOT invited.

 

Drew's suggestion, a compromise -- lunch at his house, dinner at my parents.  the girls aren't thrilled with that, but they're OK with it.

 

My sisters are up in arms!  they told my parents that Jen was hysterically crying about how she "didn't want to go" to her father's house.

 

My parents are upset because my sisters are upset. 

 

And I am being portrayed as evil incarnate because I dared to support a father's right to see his daughters for the holiday.

cross posted at Songbird's Crazy World

Comments

[Nancy]

Speaking as a "single" Mom, my son sometimes does not wish to spend time with his father. Since he is a junior in college I believe it's his right to chose. If Jen is hysterical about it she needs to let people know that it's not what she wants to do.

[songbird]

Nancy, the real drama isn't my daughter, it's my sisters and parents. My daughter Jen is OK with splitting the day between her father and her grandparents, and my daughter Becca doesn't have an issue with it.. Jen would have preferred seeing her father on friday, but Becca is working all day Friday, all day Saturday and all day Sunday. It's when she told my sisters what the plan is that all hell broke loose...and when they laid the guilt trip on her, that's when she got hysterical and said she didn't want to go...

[jwg]

Since you and Drew are on reasonable terms I'd go out to dinner in a nice restaraunt-just the two of you and the kids- and tell your family that they have a year to think about more appropriate behavior. On the other hand, I don't have to deal with your family for the next year.

[Daisy]

Gah! You're being reasonable, and you're catching all kinds of flak for it. Wishing you good luck and some holiday cheer.